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Fantasy Bond

The bond replaces emotional suffering, pain, abandonment and anxiety with a destructive self-limiting role and experience. Keeps one insulated, mechanical and detached from authentic experience. Defence against the toxic environment, at the...

Into the Darkest places

People suffering from borderline states have experienced profound early relational trauma with primary caretakers /parents. They are continuously at odds with a sense of self and the world, unloved and not wanted,...

Going Mad to Stay Sane

The pain, despair and self-destructiveness are as loud a statement as possible to make and acknowledge the soul is under attack and in exile. Acts of addiction and compulsive sexuality are there...

Narcissism to Individuation

The task of the self comes from the depth of the unconscious need to renounce any identification with the collective role and come to grips with one's inner archetypal power. A differentiation...

Delicious Abundance

Some parents have a vice-like grasp and hold of their children and force them into a pre-moulded image to fulfil their narcissist demands and wishes. The child is seen as an extension...

Codependency and why We rescue

In this episode, Susan Guner and Kevin Martin explore the social perceptions of co-dependency and the need to rescue others from their suffering. We explore how childhood conditioning plays out in adult...

10 signs of a codependent relationship

A codependent relationship usually starts with an exciting, thrilling love bombing phase, where one partner (rescuer) feels idealised and loved, finally finding their soul mate. There is no longer an endless craving...

Neurosis and Human Growth

Through adverse parental and environmental influences, a child may not be permitted to grow according to their instinctual needs and potential. A parent wrapped up in their own neurosis cannot love their...

15 Narcissistic Traits

Healthy narcissism is an essential aspect of mature self-esteem, where one can express authentic feelings, be assertive and impact others without incurring loss, punishment, or rejection. A healthy sense of self...

The Problem with Therapy

Mind The Gap The concept of “mind the gap “Is one underlying the transitional space between the client and therapist that is both conscious and unconscious. The space...